The Honourable Thief

Beauty: a combination of qualities, such as shape, colour, or form that pleases the aesthetic senses, especially the sight.

Who hasn’t envied the beautiful? Surprisingly, there are downsides to being beautiful. Thanks to social media, in our quest to look like the best, we often ignore that beauty comes at a price. And by price, I don’t mean the costs of plastic surgery.

First, studies show that if you are interviewed by someone of the same gender, they are less likely to hire you if they consider you to be more attractive than they are. So while looking attractive gives you confidence, it certainly makes you the object of envy. And that might not always work in your favour.

Second, it is hard to guess whether you are being valued for your personality or for your looks. Often you can’t figure whether someone from the opposite gender considers you as a good friend or as a showpiece that they want to brag about later. This can get really frustrating and depressing at times.

Finally, it’s offensive when people reckon that you got a certain position or grade because you look attractive and not because you worked REALLY hard for it! According to some weird theory, it is assumed that for women, beauty and brains don’t go together. A study in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that people attributed the success of beautiful women to "luck" rather than ability, while male hunks were seen to possess both.

It’s a no brainer that beauty is not just something to notice anymore; it’s a MUST HAVE asset. This is proven true by the multi-billion dollar cosmetics industry. We are inevitably telling our children, specially our girls, that being beautiful (on the outside) is a necessity, a goal.

I feel almost embarrassed to admit that yes, I know I am genetically blessed with good looks. I don’t take any pride in it because it’s not something I worked hard for. I rather you give me credit for the person I am. And for the achievements that I have worked hard for.

When I try to vent out about my issues in life, I have heard things like, “If I looked like you, I would have nothing to complain about!”. Really? Think again? No matter how you look, you will always find something that you wish you could change. Everyone has insecurities, and a right to complain about those insecurities! But making good looks a destination is not a worthy goal.

Don’t get me wrong. I am happy about the way I look, just as I hope each one of you can be and should be! If you love make-up or dressing up, by all means go ahead and have fun. But don’t let anyone tell you that you need to look a certain way. Because beauty, as we know it, is not always perfect.

#SimranAjwani #TheHonourableThief

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